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What Came First, The Lesson Or The Test?

I was randomly daydreaming, when it hit me like a ton of bricks; I’d been duped! Oh, why me, who hath been so smart and savvy. I have stated many times before, “You truly don’t know, what you don’t know”. The thought of being duped had emotionally upset me. How could I have been so blind? How come no one told me? My friend tried to sooth me by saying that it was okay, and that now I knew better. Pondering the event and person that made me upset, I wish I knew then, what I know now. I’m sure this rings a bell for most people.

Now, I can completely agree with my friend, and acknowledge that failure was my best teacher. Scenarios like this happen time and time again in life, the test first then the lesson. This is totally different from the traditional way of learning in school, but the biggest teacher of all is life it self. You will continue to receive the same test, until you learn the required lesson. Often times, people find out the lesson the hard way.

Acquiring the lesson requires the skill of hindsight. This means being brutally honest with yourself by analyzing and evaluating your mistakes. You must first have the courage to admit your mistake and confront your failure. The initial reaction is to usually complain and dwell on the mistake, but that’s not productive at all. Bits of wisdom are waiting to be collected. The best way to unearth the wisdom is to journal the experience and discover ways your life has or can be transformed based on the lessons you’ve experienced. Examining your failure, will guide you in changing your approach before you proceed to try again.

It took me years of repeating the same tests over and over to finally learn the lesson. I didn’t have any mentors in my life, so most of my life lessons were acquired through my trial and error. In the course of my trials and tribulations, I didn’t realize that there was insight to be taken away from each experience. I just saw any failures as a mere bleep on my map. Sure, I would get frustrated about why this was happening, but I still couldn’t connect the dots. I guess I had my head buried in the sand like most.

Once I got my Aha! moment, the clouds cleared and I was able to see what I was missing the entire time. The space of clarity helped me to appreciate my failures. Now, I have the opportunity to recognize what I was doing wrong, and to course correct. There is great comfort and reassurance in knowing; no matter if I fall flat on my face, I will still inherit a big chunk of wisdom. Oh how, I love the beauty of Trial & Error.

How do you view your failures, trials, and tribulations? What life lessons did you have to learn the hard way? Share your thoughts by leaving a comment below.


Shawna Kaye

Kay is a Lifestyle & Empowerment Enthusiast, and the Founder and Editor-in-Chief of Blissed Out Belle™. Connect with her on Facebook here, and follow her on Twitter @IAmShawnaKaye .


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