“La, la, la I can’t hear you”, is what a child utters with hands clasped to their ears attempting to block out any form of explanation or truth. This scenario may be a fond distant childhood memory, but what this represents is exactly what many adults do when the truth is revealed to them, block it out. The truth seems like no fun, and somewhat disruptive to what we rather believe. Well, why do we block out the truth, often times killing the messenger? Are we afraid to awaken from the depths of unconsciousness? Are we so conditioned to the believe lies, that we don’t even know how to determine what’s fact? Or is it that we rather live in delusion because it seems so much more appealing?
Let’s face it; a number of people choose to have their heads buried in the sand, and unconsciously subscribing to the formula of “ignorance is bliss”. Have you noticed that when you drop some knowledge on a person, a wall of defense will arise within them? No one wants to be bothered with the truth, because with it comes awareness, and awareness brings responsibility.
Case in point, a short time ago I joined an online community called Wizpert, where experts gives advice and coaching to people on an array of topics. And my topic of specialty is Relationships and Personal Growth. So, recently I chatted with a guy who was dealing with some relationship issues. In the chat session, this guy expressed to me that he went on a 1st date with a young lady, and the both of them enjoyed themselves which led him to schedule a second date. Unfortunately, for him she bailed on him never to be heard from until 6 months down the line, only to disappear again.
So, I presented to him some possible scenarios as to why she may have been ignoring his calls. This young lady may not have been into him to begin with; she may have a fear of commitment and is emotional unavailable, or she may be seeing someone else altogether. Despite what the current reality was, this guy wanted me to comfort him with lies, however my best advise was to move on and spare himself the emotional distress. Nonetheless, since the harsh truth that I conveyed to him wasn’t resonating with what he wanted to hear, our session pretty much ended a little early. Bottom line, this guy was in self-denial, and was adamant on me agreeing with him in order to feel right about continuing to aimlessly contact this young lady.
The truth can be a bitter pill to swallow, however once acknowledged it can be an empowering catalyst for transformation. Be that as it may, there are some that will delude themselves of information that can benefit them. Nonetheless, what I’ve come to understand about most individuals is that as long as the truth agrees with their opinion or point-of-view, then they’ll happily welcome the truth. Often times, when the truth contradicts what people want to hear, is only when they’ll take up issue with it.
Usually, the truth can be uncomfortable, and painful for some people to hear. At times hearing it might mean that we have to actually change the way we’ve been doing things, or the way we think, and some folks don’t want to make the effort, or find it difficult to do so. Most people would rather ignore an issue, than have to deal with it even if it’s in their best interest. Not to mention, there are individuals that would evade any information that would indicate that how they’ve been operating could possibly wrong; and no one wants to be WRONG!
All things considered, at some point we will be forced to face the music. Let’s remind ourselves that just because something contradicts our opinion doesn’t make it incorrect. From our limited perspective, it’s best to pose the question to ourselves on whether we’re blocking out information due to the fact that it’s not what we desire to hear, or is it a means of avoid having to make another decision and take new action. All the same, you don’t have to necessarily agree with what anyone tells you; however don’t allow your stubborn thinking to get in the way of listening to sound information. It takes courage to confront the truth, along with the strength to come to terms with the possibility of being wrong, but once faced it will allow you the opportunity to make empowered and well-informed decisions. The following famous quote from Gloria Steinem says it all…
“The truth will set you free. But, first it will piss you off.”
Would you rather face the truth, or live in delusion as means to avoid being wrong? Why? Express your thoughts, and join the conversation by leaving a comment below. Share this post if you found it thought provoking, or helpful to you.
Shawna Kaye ( Blissed Out Belle )
Kaye is a Lifestyle Writer & Empowerment Passionista, and the Founder and Editor-in-Chief of Blissed Out Belle™. Connect with her on Facebook here, and follow her on Twitter @BlissedOutBelle .