Did you ever notice that when you take a break from dating, how all these great men come out of the wood works? Ladies, there is power in taking a dating hiatus. Every now and then, there comes a time in a single women’s life when she may need to take a step back from a frustrating and discouraging dating rut. Taking a dating hiatus can be an awesome time for self-discovery and rejuvenation for the soul.
You know that frustrated feeling when you’ve been dating guy, after guy, and nothing is really panning out. Personally, I would go months upon dating being irritated, disheartened, and out right disgusted by what was available in the dating pool. I’ve taken dating breaks before, so with all that was going on, it was time for another one.
In my most recent dating hiatus I’ve accomplished major moves like launching BlissedOutBelle.com. With no longer having to focus my energy on entertaining guys, I was able to channel all my energy into bigger feats. The break in my love life has been a positive, productive, and uplifting experience. My break has been such a success that when I least expect it, I met a great guy. Who would have thought that this would be the case, but that’s how life works. When you’re in a positive place in your life, it generates room for all your desires to be materialized.
My much needed break has been an emotional and mental cleanse that has served me tremendously. Therefore, if you’re stuck in a rut, and still don’t see how a dating break can be of benefit to you, I can surely reveal 3 major advantages that will have you feeling rejuvenated, and ready to get back out there in a matter of time.
1. My dating break has given me time to get right with me. There is no use in dating, or even getting into a relationship if you haven’t worked on yourself. A lot of us have subconscious baggage from our childhood or past relationships, and it takes a conscious effort to work out those issues before dragging them into the next relationship relationship. You have to dig up old habits and patterns that cause self sabotage, in order to remove the blocks that prevent you from manifesting real love. At this point, a great dose of self-reflection is required to get to the root of all the troubles. As I’ve stated before, “I’m a work in progress”, and to this day I still determined to work on me whether I’m in a relationship or not. It is always beneficial to take a long hard look at your actions and behaviors, because this will disclose how you’ve contributing to your own relationship demise. Grasping a close look at your self maybe a hard pill to swallow, but it’s a step in the right direction to growth and improvement.
2. The lapse in dating has given me the opportunity to focus on self-improvement. How are you going to add value to another person’s life, if you have yet to add value to your own? Use this time wisely to take a class, join a club, travel, volunteer, launch your business, start a blog, or much more. Decide on what areas need improvement and work on them. I’ve spent my time feeding my mind with knowledge, reading, working out, developing my website, just to name a few. Working on your self-improvement will have you feeling upbeat and confident like never before, and as you exude confidence, you’ll feel ready to jump back in the dating world.
3. Another major benefit to a dating hiatus is that it serves as a time to gain clarity on the type of person that is best for you. If you dibble and dabble in the dating pool, and are not specific on what you really want, you’ll end up drowning. After spending time in self-reflection you should have acquired a great deal of self-awareness, and with that awareness you should be able to determine what is required in order to have a successful relationship you. As for myself, I have come to realize that a few of the qualities that interest me are a person who’s attentive, receptive to my feelings, and is highly ambitious, etc. Aware of what I need, I’ am able to have a better ‘weeding out’ process. Gone are the day’s of aimlessly be courted by the wrong kind of men, the balls in my court now so I can pick, choose, and refuse, as I see fit.
Now don’t think for a minute that a dating hiatus is a negative or lonely experience; it’s far from it. It’s a time for you; a time to heal, a time to build confidence, a time to recharge. If for any reason you need to get a handle on your life and put things in perspective, by all means take a break; you surely won’t regret it. Just remember ‘A set back, is a set up for a come back.’
What triggered you to take a break from dating? How has a dating hiatus personally benefited you? Share your thoughts by leaving a comment below.
Shawna Kay ( Blissed Out Belle )
Kay is a Lifestyle & Empowerment Enthusiast, and the Founder and Editor-in-Chief of Blissed Out Belle™. Connect with her on Facebook here, and follow her on Twitter @BlissedOutBelle .