Have you ever experienced that flush of warmth that overwhelms your body, the total sensation of ecstasy? It’s as if you want that toe curling moment to last forever. That’s your sweet spot! It’s all the things that make you go Ooo! And what hits your sweet spot varies for everybody. I definitely condone you indulging (responsibly) in all the things that take you to bliss. You may think that it’s a selfish thing to do, but damn it, don’t you think you deserve it!
I can recount an incident when an extended family member once randomly stated, “Your self indulgent!” That was definitely out of left field. I didn’t know how to take this statement at the time, I didn’t know whether to be offended or not. My initial instinct was to defend myself by saying “No, I’m not!”. Nonetheless, I paused and thought to myself for a moment, then shrugged my shoulders and smiled. ‘Self indulgent’, you damn right! I deserve to pamper myself; and if I don’t, who will! A healthy dose of self-indulgence is great, as long as you’re being responsible and not infringing on others.
Why is the fact, that I take care of myself an issue for them? Maybe they envied the fact that they weren’t doing the same thing for themselves. Misery surly loves company, and making me feel bad for my self-care wasn’t going to work.
I love pampering me! Treating myself to massages, facials, microdermabrasion, manicures & pedicures, and much more; really keeps mama happy! Why should I be made to feel bad, for treating myself the way I deserve to be treated? I have to fill up my cup first, so that I’m able to overflow into the lives of others. Investing in your self-care is a part of the holistic approach to health, and prevents chronic stress.
I can recall when I didn’t take the time out for myself, to which I deprived myself and felt stressed. I needed rejuvenation, to get back to my sweet spot. Your life is enhanced when you take the time to invest in your self-care. As women, we often neglect our own needs and forget to nurture ourselves at the expense of our happiness and self esteem. When you spend time only tending to others needs you can be at risk for getting burned out, and feelings of resentment may surface. Self-care can contribute to long-term feelings of well-being. Your self-care ritual might include the following:
Soak in a hot bath, with candles and music.
Enjoy a spa day with a facial, massage, and mani/ pedi.
- Take a weekend retreat.
- Nourish your body with organic foods.
- Savor your favorite yummy treats.
- Lavish yourself with luxury beauty products.
- Take a course in yoga, salsa, or pole dancing.
- And much more!
So, if someone accuses you of being self indulgent or selfish, just smile and politely say “Thank You”. Take pride in the twisted compliment, and don’t apologize for making your self-care a priority. I encourage you to follow your Bliss!
Have you ever been accused of being too self-indulgent or selfish for pampering yourself? Do you feel guilty for taking care of You? Why? What self-care rituals do you enjoy indulging in? Share your thoughts by leaving a comment below.
Kaye is a Lifestyle & Empowerment Enthusiast, and the Founder and Editor-in-Chief of Blissed Out Belle™. Connect with her on Facebook here, and follow her on Twitter @IAmShawnaKaye .