Something must be in the water. We all understand tis the season for making resolutions and goals, but for some reason another phenomenon seems to take place around this time of year as well; it’s the ‘Case of the Ex’. Even before the year started, different exes or guys I’ve previously dated started coming out of the wood works contacting me. Why the change of heart all of a sudden, had the holidays and New Year’s brought about some break through moment for these guys?
My best assumption about this paradox is that the start of a new year brings about deep reflection and realization of where they might’ve of missed out on ‘the one that got away’. I know that Valentines’ day is around the corner and everyone is analyzing the state of their love life. Another year, and their love life is no better than it was before. One more possible explanation for an ex to reach out at this moment is that he could just be trying to figure out if you’re still into him. Some men like to know that a woman is still into him, and this might give him some form of ego boost. Whatever the case might be, I applaud these men’s newfound epiphany, but honestly it’s too little, to late.
It’s so hilarious how my exes are trying to get the scoop on my love life. The conversation usually starts off with small talk, and usually ends up delving into my love life. Why Mr. Ex was so concerned about my affairs, beats me. Nevertheless, I didn’t care to ask anyone about their status.
Taking back an ex is not an option at this point. I no longer give multiple chances anymore; it’s one strike and your out! These guys are surely exes for a reason, and any issues from before that might have hindered the relationship from flourishing, still lingers on. As the great Maya Angelou states, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time”. I’m sorry pal, if you didn’t recognize and appreciate a great woman when you had her, she wasn’t meant for you to have.
Now ladies, if Mr. Ex has that New Year itch and want to rekindle the fire that you guys previously had, I suggest you be extremely suspicious. Personally I wouldn’t give it another shot, unless with out a doubt there was legitimate reason too. A legitimate reason might be that you mutually agreed to separate in order to work on yourselves, and now as whole individuals you reunite. However, if there’s a defect in his character, kick him to the curb. 9 times out of 10 a person’s character doesn’t change, and if you dealt with a flawed character before, I can guarantee it will remain the same.
When it comes to my love life, I’m not in the business of recycling ex boyfriends. I know I’m breaking some poor guys heart right now, but he’ll live, and hopefully learn a lesson from this experience. Therefore the next time he has a great woman in his life, he would do right by her from the start; because ‘it’s never as good as the first time’.
Are you experiencing the ‘Case of the Ex’ phenomenon? Would you reunite with your ex for a fresh start of the New Year? Why? Share your thoughts by leaving a comment below.
Shawna Kay ( Blissed Out Belle )
Kay is a Lifestyle & Empowerment Enthusiast, and the Founder and Editor-in-Chief of Blissed Out Belle™. Connect with her on Facebook here, and follow her on Twitter @BlissedOutBelle .