Picture yourself with rusty shackles around your feet and wrists chained to a wall. I mean really visualize it for a second. This simulated scene signifies confinement to your past. Are you imprisoned to a decision that you’ve made in the past? It’s okay, you’re allowed to change your mind, or have a different opinion. At times, I felt like I had to latch onto a decision as to remain consistent, and not to appear as though I had made a mistake. Holding on to ideas, or a position tooth and nail is what keeps us locked in our own invisible prison.
So what, you ate meat yesterday, and today you want to become a vegan. So, what if you were a high paid attorney, and decide to become an interior designer. You can’t hold yourself consistent to things and ideas, because you are forever evolving and changing.
This also includes, letting other people hold you consistent with who you were. I have experienced myself that when you start to evolve, the people around you get uncomfortable. Unconsciously, others want to keep you where you are, because in their mind they have mentally defined and labeled you a certain way. If at the flip-of-a- switch you change your mind, and others begin making a big deal out of it, it’s because you haven’t given them enough time to mentally process the new you. Often times these same individuals will bring up your past as a means to offset your new decision. At all cost, I suggest that you not allow the naysayers to bind you to any outdated ideas.
As you grow and experience life, of course you’re you going to change your mind. You will stumble upon new insight and wisdom, so how on earth are you to remain the same! My mind is constantly shape shifting, and I am grateful for my ability to embrace change in an optimistic manner. As you’re already aware of, your thoughts create your life experience; so if I expand my mind in a positive direction, I’m inviting a fulfilling lifestyle into existence. As Mahatma Gandhi once stated “You must be the change you wish to see in the world.”
Well, what about the inconsistent flip-floppers?
Yes, they’re allowed to change their minds too, as long as it’s coming from a place of being knowledgeable and empowered and electing the best decision.
Let me clarify the difference between empowered changers as opposed to being a flip-flopper. The flip-floppers of life usually base their decisions out of fear, procrastination, and downright laziness. These are the folks that lack self-discipline and persistence, and change their mind at the drop of a hat as to avoid having to do something, or just to agree with the crowd to get a long.
On the other hand, the empowered changers are the movers and shakers of life. When they change their mind, you better believe it’s from a place of growth, wisdom, and maturity. Their decisions are not made in the heat of the moment; so if a change is to occur it is well thought out in advance. Seeing that now you know the difference, please don’t get the two confused.
Friends and family used to hold me consistent to my past, but they know now to ‘expect the unexpected’ from me. With everything in mind, go ahead and switch the style up; because nobody knows what’s best for you, than yourself.
Do you resist change in life as a way to remain consistent? Why? Are the changes you make from an empowered approach or as a flip-flopper? As an evolving person, have you experienced resistance to the new you from friends and family? Share your thoughts by leaving a comment below.
Kaye is a Lifestyle & Empowerment Enthusiast, and the Founder and Editor-in-Chief of Blissed Out Belle™. Connect with her on Facebook here, and follow her on Twitter @IAmShawnaKaye .