Recently, I had a chance to witness some people burn bridges, and it made me ponder to myself whether this was a good practice or not? These actions made me wonder how I would personally go about this in the future. Generally, there wouldn’t be so much thought placed on this situation because I would considered myself a righteous person, and I constantly make an effort to leave every passing situation on a positive note. With that being said, the decision to burn a bridge is something that everyone will be forced to face at some point, so why not examine our course of thought on this?
Upon my reflection on this topic, this is what I can determine about our travels through this journey we call life: There are people who will burn bridges so they won’t have to retreat. In this case, bridges are only burned in places you don’t have any desire to go back to. Sometimes burning bridges is necessary so you can’t go back, and so the places of negativity can’t come and disrupt my new and more positive route. Nonetheless, letting go will always allow new things to come!
The question or dilemma here is, do I necessarily want to cross over the bridge that took me to the other side, or the next level? It’s been said by many to keep pushing forward in life and not to look back; however I never seemed to quite get the gist of that. It’s impossible for me to forget the struggle I had to endure in order to cross those bridges in the past, and the people along the way that helped me. At the time, they were there for a reason and they may still be in that same place. Why would I go back if I’m pushing forward, and they’re still right where I left them? I’m reaching for more than I had; therefore to go backwards almost seems like self-sabotage. On the other hand, I may need to cross those bridges again, hmm…or will I? Once you’ve destroyed a relationship with someone you’ll never know when you will need their assistants again. So, is it really burning a bridge, or moving on to the next level as you step-on whom you must, to get to what you want?
It’s a small world, and you never know when you’ll need help, or work with the same people again. On that account, having the right attitude and being courteous and professional is the best way to go. Point being made as for working in the entertainment industry, there’s an experience where I can recall working with and establishing a connection with a Production Assistant on a particular project, then this same person turned around the following year to become a director of a major motion picture. As a result of maintaining this connection, the former production assistant helped me to get other opportunities in the industry.
On the other hand, there may be times where you will be forced severe the ties with certain individuals for good. “Who do you think I am, I don’t need this”, were my words when I had enough of dealing with a very influential person in the entertainment industry. I stated this knowing that if I spoke up or lashed out in anyway there was a possibility of being blackballed, or have a dark shadow cast over my head for sometime to come. However, there comes a point where you maybe forced to burn a bridge with someone; not because you want to, but have to. When you are consistently being disrespected, you must take a stand by voicing your opinion, and this includes forgetting about all the possible opportunities you might lose by speaking up. In this situation, I didn’t think twice about burning a bridge given that this is one pathway I refuse to backpedal to.
Be that as it may, I’ve seen the shrewd businessman burn bridges, and get ahead. I’ve seen the more conscious businessman be nice and stay in the same place complaining about the shrewd man, all the while wishing they had the courage to do the same. Through all of this I’ve come to the realization that burning bridges is just not for me. There have been many times in my life when those bridges have helped me on so many occasions. Therefore, who’s to say you’ll never need help from a particular individual again? So, whether you burn a bridge out of choice or force, it’s up to you to be the judge.
From my mind to your mind
Mr. Intellect (edited by Shawna Kaye)
In life, do you agree with burning bridges, or do you only support it on a conditional basis? In what situation would you voluntarily choose to “burn a bridge”? Express your thoughts, and join the conversation by leaving a comment below. Share this post if you found it thought provoking, or helpful to you.