“Start where you are. Distant fields always look greener, but opportunity lies right where you are. Take advantage of every opportunity of service.”
Standing in my yard there are all sorts of irregularities like patches of brown grass, weeds, and withering flowers; or so it seems! We are always looking outside our current circumstance to compare what our neighbor has in their garden; then this becomes the case of ‘grass is greener’ syndrome. With all the abundance of opportunities available to us, the endless quest for happiness seems as though it can never be satisfied.
There was a moment in time where I spent time looking at my neighbors yard, only to have mine just wither away. How unproductive?! “Over there” looks so lush, when in actuality the grass isn’t that much greener. We can have our own lush landscape if we just got busy tending to our own yards. The time spent comparing and contrasting gives you anxiety wondering if your missing out on something big. It appears as though the person next to you is having a better time elsewhere, and this can give you a sense of unease due to the impression that you should be having the same or better experience.
The false concept of being somewhere else other than where you are, will have you running around seeking fulfillment in all the wrong places. Whether it be switching jobs, relocating to another city, starting a relationship with someone new, if your heart is discontented to begin with, “over there” will remain the same. Perception plays a huge role in how you view your landscape, and you can either take your sunshine wherever you go or bring your gloomy clouds. So, it’s up to you to be happy right where you are!
What really fuels the ‘grass is greener syndrome’ is focusing on what you don’t have and always yearning for more, rather than appreciating all that is before you. As you can recognize, the mind of individuals with the ‘grass is greener’ syndrome is never present, because they’re always seeking salvation somewhere else. Happiness is in the here and now, and the only path to it is through present moment awareness and appreciation. Awareness in the present moment prevents you from agonizing over all the thoughts of should’ve, could’ve, would’ve, and assist you in appreciating life as it happens. These two key elements give you a sense of happiness, peace, and satisfaction with where you are.
So, before you go running off to greener pastures, stop and take a moment to assess your landscape and notice all the greatness at hand. Expressing gratitude will uproot you out of depression, discontent, and give you more things to be grateful about. And if for some reason you must leave your yard for some place greener, ensure that your decision is from a place of knowledge and growth, and not because your green with envy over what your neighbor has.
Are you guilty of the ‘grass is greener syndrome’? Do you feel like your always missing out on something big? Why? Share your thoughts by leaving a comment below.
Kaye is a Lifestyle & Empowerment Enthusiast, and the Founder and Editor-in-Chief of Blissed Out Belle™. Connect with her on Facebook here, and follow her on Twitter @IAmShawnaKaye .