What a wonderful site to see a woman playing to the beat of her own drum, not waiting for anyone to come rescue her. Anything this woman’s heart desires, her wish is her command. Possessing the character traits of the empowered woman is what all women should strive for. Nonetheless, there are woman who yearn for a man to come save them, and take them out their misery. Getting showered with Christian Louboutin, shopping sprees, and paid bills, might be exciting at first, but sooner or later this woman will come to find out the dark side of gold digging.
Truth be told, the issue with gold digging is that it gives you a false sense of success, and is usually temporary. The woman who participates in this opportunistic behavior takes the easy street, by piggybacking off the men that pursue her. Therefore, too much time is spent seeking someone to get ahead in life, that women often neglect their own self-development and growth. Ladies, there’s no time to sit around hoping that someone else will fulfill your dreams. Furthermore, a man respects, and finds it sexy when a woman can make her own power moves, and her life is not left to the whims of someone else’s decision.
Let me make this clear, I’m not saying it’s inappropriate to accept gifts from a man, but if your chasing after men with the sole intention of what you can get out of him, you’re placing yourself in a very vulnerable position. If this is the path you’re taking to success, you will always be seeking your next come up. Keep in mind, these gifts don’t come free, and there’s a price to pay for your exploitation. If a man generously offers you anything, at some point he will want something in return. Whether she knows it or not, a woman who seeks this type of arrangement is putting her fate in the hands of another.
Don’t get too comfortable with everything, the same man you come to rely on to pave your way to success, may turn on you with the flip of a switch. When a man knows that he’s your only option, he will treat you as such; and at that time you will be forced to buck up and comply with his demands. A number of women in this situation stay in unhealthy relationships, because they know that they have no other option. Wielding the power in his hand, if that same man were to pull the rug from out under her feet, her whole world would come crashing down. Just remember, whatever you’re receiving out of the circumstance, enjoy it while it last.
What the opportunistic woman doesn’t know is that she too can be, do, and have her own. It’s fine and dandy to want a man that is a provider and that brings plenty to the table, but what are you bringing to the table? Now, before you start checking off your list of must-haves in a man, how about you check yourself. Can you afford to purchase those same possessions you’re being showered with? I can’t stress this point enough, that you should be able to afford and have your own. When having your own, you hold the keys to your prosperity. And even if you were to accept offerings from a man, you can accept them without feeling worthless or obligated.
Refuse to be easily impressed by gifts. Own your power, and learn to get ahead in life on your own. Any additional gifts your receive is supplementary to what you already possess for yourself. Stand tall as the empowered woman who knows her worth, and can not be bought. Ladies, you were born to be the mover and shaker of your life!
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Shawna Kay ( Blissed Out Belle )
Kay is a Lifestyle & Empowerment Enthusiast, and the Founder and Editor-in-Chief of Blissed Out Belle™. Connect with her on Facebook here, and follow her on Twitter @BlissedOutBelle .