I’m back and better than ever! Now that the season finale of #DreamHustle is done, I’m finally back to writing. A lot has happened in the past few months with me, and I’m glad I have the opportunity to share it with you. These past few months have been a roller coaster ride of changes, growth, and lessons learned.
I experienced what most spiritual teachers would call “The Dark Night of The Soul”, which is considered a moment in your life when things get turned upside down to awaken you into something deeper. And to tell you the truth what triggered it was my move. I set the intention to make a major move to rid myself of the stale stagnate energy that I’d been experiencing, only to be tossed into a foreign environment and amongst strangers; leaving me scared and vulnerable.
How ironic, that’s exactly what I wanted! For sometime I longed to reinvigorate my spirit by being in a new space and place, and indeed it did just that. My first initial thought was to scurry back to what I knew was familiar to me, but deep down my intuition told me that there was something to acquire from this new experience, so I kept my cool and faced it bravely.
Nothing seemed to be going right according to plans, but like most people I wasn’t prepared for any setbacks, and I just thought that if I was clear about my vision everything would fall right into place. Unfortunately, I found out the hard way that when you set out expand to new horizons you can almost guarantee that you’ll face a challenge, and how you handle it determines how successful you’ll be.
Are you stepping out to reinvent your life, launch your dreams, or start a business? If so, these five tips I’m about to present to you will allow you to be prepared to be resilient, while thriving in the face of changes and challenges.
1. Be Mindful of Your Thoughts.
When faced with a stressful situation, challenge, or adversity what do you say to yourself? What you think will be a clear indicator of how you will feel, of what you say, and what you will do. Personally in my situation my thoughts were very optimistic in the beginning, but as time went on I began to feel sadness and frustration. At that point I was so caught up in my circumstance that I wasn’t being mindful of my thoughts, whereby they created feelings of hopelessness.
Even though I’ve been on a enlightened spiritual path for a while, I forgot about my power to directly shape my circumstance and life. So as I began to remind myself of what I know to be true, I activated empowering thoughts and beliefs which ultimately gave me a positive outcome. Overall, you want to be vigilant about weeding out negative thoughts and replacing them with productive ones.
2. Hold Onto Your Vision, But Stay Flexible.
When faced with change or challenge there are two ways you can get stuck. You can either hold on too tight to your vision; this ultimately projects negative emotions of fear and doubt, and which actually attracts the opposite of what you desire. On the other hand, you might get scared and lose your vision all together. This is the common case of the fight or flight response.
I for one notoriously hold tight to my vision by any means, which is good in a certain sense but causes unnecessary suffering. I’m just now learning to be more flexible when it comes to the outcome, and not so rigidly attached. I have since seen this miracle in action, because the second I detached from what I think the outcome should be it turned out even better than I thought it would. Word to the wise; let go and let God!
3. Feed Your Faith, Starve Your Fears.
Do you trust that the Divine spirit is working on your behalf, and that everything is happening for you and not to you? In the moment we may think we know what’s best for us, however we cannot fathom how a situation can be for Protection, Prevention, or Preparation. It was easy for me to think “Why Me!”, but I sensed deep down that it was all apart of God’s divine plan. Going through this tumultuous season led me to become deeply dedicated to my spiritual practice, which allowed me to experience an ever increasing sense of inner peace and trust in the creative process of life.
I can’t stress it enough that developing a deep spiritual connection to God will allow your worries to wither away, and be replaced by a grace of patience, which is a calm certainty that something good is happening to you in the present moment, despite any appearance to the contrary. Therefore, it’s crucial that you’re consistently feeding your faith, and starving your fears which prepares you to stay grounded and thrive in the face of whatever life throws at you. Preparation may look like meditation, prayer, affirmations, visualization, or whatever spiritual practice that gets you centered.
5. Be Sure to Have a Strong Support System.
Success doesn’t happen in isolation, neither does being resilient. When you’re feeling down and disappointed you cannot expect to pull yourself out the rut, with the same type of thinking that got you there in the first place. Having a strong support system will boost your ability to conquer any challenge. For myself, I have a circle of four close people who I can always count on to give me wise counsel. So when I hit my ruff patch which entailed moments of freaking out, my support system was always there to calm me down and give me perspective.
In general, be sure to always have people around you who support your efforts and give you great advice. This means not waiting until the going gets tough, or you need help; it’s about to reaching out all the time. Building a network of support starts with being intentional about reaching out, supporting others, and staying connected. You must first be of genuine service to others, for them to be a generous blessing to you. It’s about building friendships and nurturing relationships at the end of the day.
6. Focus On Solutions, Not Problems.
Do you see challenge as an opportunity or a problem? If you see it as a problem you will allow fear to paralyze you from moving forward, or you’ll take action from a desperate place causing even more chaos. However, if you see it as an opportunity for growth you’ll see the situation as a stepping-stone, and use it to take intuitive action that will eventually lead you to success. Now that’s being proactive, instead of reactive.
So instead of running from the unknown, I chose to take a different route, and see it as an opening for self-discovery and expansion of consciousness. With an optimistic outlook I even channeled the great Whitney Houston by saying “If I fail, if I succeed, at least I live as I believe”. Anyways, the point here is that how you focus your attention will determine your ability to overcome challenge and attract ultimate success.
Bottom line is to not get easily discouraged or frustrated when things don’t go as planned. Let’s face it; success is never a straight line, even though we’d like to think it is. If you choose to apply these tips, trust me you’ll be able to bounce back from setbacks with style, grace, and a smile on your face. ; )
Dedicated to your Success,
Now, I’d love to here from you! How have you handled challenges in the past, and with this new information how will you handle it going forward? What is your take away or insight from today’s post?
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