It’s funny how the thing that was once a source of love, can become a source of resentment. If anyone ever told me 8 years ago that I would’ve fallen out of love with my dream career, I would have called B.S on them in a second. However, sooner or later I would’ve probably had to eat my own words because I did fall out of love of with my career.
It was as if I found out that the love of my life that I thought was my soul mate, was not actually the one. I was heartbroken, ashamed, and embarrassed that career I so passionately spent countless hours investing my time and money on, did not end up being my one true calling. Damn it, I played by all the rules! I went to college & studied my ass off, graduated, and was working in my industry; where’s my happily ever after?!
By the way as a quick side note, I’m going to mention a lot of analogies about relationships when it comes to your career. As a matter of fact, it’s how you relate, emotionally connect, and engage with your work, which makes it a relationship.
Anyways, it turns out that it’s quite common for people to have a change of heart about their career, but most of us never muster up the courage do anything about it, and there’s also this stigma around wanting to take your career in a new direction.
Nevertheless, I’m here to help you put an end to suffering in silence. I want you to know that it’s perfectly fine to have fallen out of love with your career, or perhaps you were never in love with it to begin with. In any case, as you evolve and grow as an individual there are just somethings in life that will not evolve with you, and one of those things just might be your career. So it’s up to you to be mindful of the status of the relationship with your career, and be proactive about resolving it.
So, whether you work for a company or you’re an entrepreneur here’s a list of 12 Signs You’ve Fallen Out Of Love With Your Dream Career. Ensure to mark which signs you identify with so you can use the Career Love Scale™ below, to indicate what stage you’re currently in. By the way, this list in no means is meant to make you feel bad or is a judgment on you. It’s only meant to help you see where you may be avoiding the truth about how you feel about your work.
12 Signs You’ve Fallen Out of Love with your Dream Career
- The career you were once enthusiastic and energized about, now feels like a draining chore.
- You’re successful in your career, but are nonchalant about getting promoted to a hire position in your company.
- You’re recent raise or increase in revenue has not changed the dreaded feelings you have about your work.
- When someone asks you what you do for a living, you feel annoyed just to talk about it.
- You’re not fully engaged or mindful in your work, and are running on autopilot.
- You feel creatively stifled and have no innovative input, insight, or opinions on projects and company endeavors.
- You’re withdrawn and are disinterested in being social with colleagues, and are not a team player.
- You feel like your selling out and not holding true to your beliefs, and values, or not living up to your full potential.
- You switch companies or positions in your industry hoping that your feelings about your career will change, but they don’t.
- You’re bored out of your mind, and feel like you are not growing, improving, or learning as much.
- You feel your career lacks meaning or doesn’t make a significant impact in the world, and your efforts feel like busy work just to fill time.
- You’re readily stressed out or overwhelmed by your assignments, and may snap or become impatient with colleagues or the people closest to you.
Now, how many of these categories can you relate to? Use the Career Love Scale below to find out where you rank.
Career Love Scale™
Here’s how it works: You add up how many of the categories above closely resembles how you relate to your career, and based on that amount find where you land on the Career Love Scale. This will give you the personal insight you need to take charge of your career.
1-3 It’s Not You, It’s Me!
At this point your skewed perspective, or other things going on in your personal life may be affecting how you feel about your dream career. This is where you should take personal responsibility for how you’re showing up in your work.
4-6 It’s starting to lose its spark.
The enjoyment you had for your career is starting to wane, and most likely you’re not fully aware of it. This can be due to a combination of your perspective and your career itself, however it’s not too late to rekindle the flame.
7-9 Let’s try to make this relationship work!
You’re aware that the passion for your career is slipping, but you try to bargain and rationalize for why it can work. Maybe it’s a fat paycheck, the great benefits, or out of obligation & fear, which keeps you holding on. At the end of the day, the game plan is to just grin and bear it until retirement. At this stage you can easily end up getting stuck in an unfulfilling career if you don’t do something about it.
10-12 Its time to break up with your Career!
Enough is enough! You’re on the verge of quitting, and/or actively seeking to discover what you’re purpose is, and what your passionate about so that you can transition into a career that aligns with who you are.
Where do you go from here?
You have a couple of options here depending where you rank on the scale. If you are on the lower end of the scale you can simply work on rekindling the fire (more about that in another post), you can also change positions or companies, or you can simply just quit!
Now before you jump ship, I want you to reflect on whether it’s your career itself, your company, or maybe it’s you. Yep I said it, “You”! I don’t want to get into it too deep here because I’ll save that for another post. On the other hand, if you’ve done some deep reflection and realized that you’re just not that into your career anymore; then maybe it’s time discover what you are truly passionate about doing.
I’m not going to say that you’ll get up tomorrow knowing what you want to do, because I know it’s an exploration process and much needed guidance is what’s essential. Therefore, whether or not you choose to seek my support, I just hope that you find the courage to seek help somewhere so that you can pursue work that truly lights up your soul!
To doing what you love,
Now, I’d love to here from you! Where on the Career Love Scale™ did you land, and what are your thoughts on it? What is your take away or insight?
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PS: If you’re truly looking for support to get unstuck in your work, and find your calling in a career you absolutely love, you can work with me one-on-one HERE.